A lone mosquito has found it’s way through a small hole in the floor of my van and keeps buzzing in my ear. It’s still cool enough from the summer desert night for the windows to stay closed. I expect this state to last less than an hour without insulation. My permanent insulation will not arrive back home until this trip is over…back orders and timing. I’m not putting my temporary insulation, currently a supremely fancy anti-reflective tarp, up this morning because I’m driving off this mountain after I type this. Well, after I get dressed. And have some coffee. And take down the shower where I’ve hung my laundry. And decide where to go. So, in a few hours. I’m supremely slow these days.
I haven’t written a travel blog for awhile. Hello. I’m traveling west to grieve…well, a lot of things. The state of the world, what cancer took from me, some other stuff. Thanks to my friend Dustwig, I’ve got a big circuitous route in Google Maps of places that sound remotely interesting that I might want to go see. So, I can just keep following it when I’m undecided. Remove stuff when I’m ready to decide. And, change course as needed. Also, I’m going slow as hell, so no promises. On anything. This is for me.
Except, I promise. I’m driving off Fly Mountain (no, that’s not it’s actual name) today. For some reason, every type of massive biting, buzzing, weirdly shaped and sized fly has swarmed this mountain. And thanks to my hike yesterday, I have proof that something in my meds or my pheromones (maybe flies like anti-estrogen), attracts them more than honey, trash or feces. I know. I’ve seen honey, trash and feces. They like me more. I’ve showered twice in two days. Didn’t help. Last night, I contemplated whether I had entered Hades, if perhaps everything here was actually dead. Perhaps, I had died and these flies were actually feasting on my corpse. It’s not the first manifestation of strange insect behavior on this trip either. My friend’s house is ridden with an abnormal amount of mosquitos, even for the woods. At a rest stop in Pecos, TX, bees found a tiny hole in the back of my van and began flying in one by one with no clear direction, except to be in my hot van. With me. What does it mean spiritually when insects start swarming you? Are drawn to you. Am I dying? Is my soul dying? The latter makes sense. Butterflies are said to be attracted to light souls, right? So these trash and blood seeking insects seeking my soul in its current state doesn’t seem like such a stretch.
This trip to Fly Mountain, okay, Guadalupe Mountain (which is lovely underneath the layer of flies), is the beginning of a pilgrimage like many other in my life. With the ultimate purpose maybe of keeping the darkness at bay. That’s why people go on vacation after all, right? I think? I don’t really know why neurotypical people do things. But I think it’s a stopgap to the boring, the drudgery, the parts of life that one hates, to do something they love? What I know is that I generally require month(s)-long retreats from my life for perspective. I think this “perspective” is to keep my own version of darkness at bay, the ennui, the purposelessness – to reposition towards my nontraditional path and not get sucked into other people’s goals and plans for me. But this time, the darkness feels different.
In the past, much of the darkness has felt more self-directed. Self-harm, self-esteem issues, addiction-spiraling, etc. Never before has a trip felt so intensely like a stopgap to keep the dark side of my personality from taking hold. Sure, all of my life I’ve danced on the edge of the seductive muse/femme fatale archetype. I’ve not really the body for that anymore, nor the estrogen…thanks cancer. I don’t even have the brain type for that without estrogen, interestingly enough. Perhaps I’ll explain that later. Whatever archetype I am now though, I’ve never felt this type of darkness towards the rest of humanity. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not over here with a shotgun, or anything. I’m talking about a darkness that shows up in loss. A loss of hope for my fellow humans after our collective experiences in 2020, a loss of trust: the feeling of being left battered and abandoned by the medical system in my own personal battleground of the last year and a half, and feeling like I’m constantly on the losing end as a parent while my own dreams are put on pause. Leaving me at a starting place of disappointment, disinterest, distrust, and dislike with other humans. This is not my normal. Whatever has always been wrong with me, of all of the multiple battles that I have survived, I have maintained hope for most of y’all. Right now, not so much.
I do not like where this puts me as a human being in the world. Obviously, it doesn’t feel good for me. And it doesn’t make me a good parent. I expend a tremendous amount of energy daily to fight against these feelings everyday with my step-teens, to be the best for them. The medical system doesn’t really get that grace, nor has it mostly shown it to me, but at the end of the day I also fear that if I’m disliked at the doctor’s office, it will subconsciously affect the quality of my care. P.S. Doctors, if you care for your patients, I challenge you, get involved with the systems you work with. Analyze how simple it is for your patients to navigate them. Call anonymously and try to make an appointment as a new patient. Talk to billing with an issue. See what happens. Humans in general, stop doing the bare minimum. Someone is picking up your slack. It really sucks. Think about others. For at least an hour a day. Preferably longer.
Phew. So that’s where we’re starting. Yesterday, I went for a hike. A lot of starting a road trip in a van that you’re building out while you’re road-tripping, is hard. It’s a learning process. It takes time. It takes a lot of testing things out. And things not working. Then, making something else. And testing it again. It invariably takes lots of unsexy time to stop and park (and probably sleep) in a Walmart parking lot and discreetly use power tools inside your van instead of continuing your trek to the next destination…then falling asleep mid-project on your twin mattress next to your drill because you really just have a foam mattress on the floor and all of your stuff in “organized” boxes and bags on the floor next to you at this point, so there’s not much room between the drill’s “spot” and your mattress. And it’s hot. And you’re tired. Well, I anticipate that’s today’s itinerary. Yesterday, I went for a much more sexy 4 hour hike to the Devil’s Hall. We’ve already established this mountain is actually in Hell right? Remember the flies? Remember the whole testing things we mentioned at the beginning of this paragraph?
Well, yesterday, I went back to my van no less than 7 times after setting out towards the trailhead because I forgot things that I should probably have for my trek, just in case. Among these things? Sunglasses, knife, bug spray, a mini packet of sunscreen to reapply (which I didn’t do), zip ties in case my repaired goodwill boots weren’t up to the task, a compass, electrolyte packets…there was more. Losing estrogen causes cognitive deficits. This doesn’t just mean forgetfulness. For me, it means aphasia, but also most relevant to this discussion, suddenly having ADD. I’ve never had ADD. It’s strange. Besides the multiple trips back, the preparedness is nothing new. I’m often mocked for it. However, let me tell you. When the anticipated disaster strikes, everyone is awful glad that I was prepared. Not that I get thanked for it really. Cuz, it’s just assumed that I’ll be prepared. Buuut, that’s a whole ‘nother topic.
In this case, I’m the one grateful for being prepared. Because the whole damn sole of my boot fell off. Then the other one did. Seriously. Not just one. Both soles. Of both boots. Because I’ve pissed off a god. It’s the god of the flies. Whoever knows which god that is, please let me know. It started with 3/4 of the right sole peeling straight off toe first when I was about a quarter of the way back home. Two zip ties and a couple of kind strangers handy with a knife got me another quarter of a mile, plus some guardians for the rest of the trip. The toe zip tie had to be replaced about ten minutes later. Then, the heel of the left boot gave way with a little over a quarter of the way back left. I’d actually glued the right heel before I left. The only part of the boots that didn’t fail, coincidentally. Another zip tie. 10 minutes later, we stopped and preemptively zip tied the left toe as well. By the time I made it back to my camp, the soles of my boots were barely hanging on by zip ties and the kindness of strangers alone. Much like my soul. Well, a propituous start to a journey indeed.
So, the boots failed. Not all humans are trash. Drella is a boss. It’s hot. I’m tired. I move very slowly. And I still don’t know where I’m going or why. Or where I’m sleeping tonight. Until next time.